Why did I get married? At times, even believers may wonder the same thing. I believe to some degree marriage is like being a Christian – if there is no adversity then are we truly standing up for what we believe in? If there is no attack against our marriage, can we truly stay committed to one another?
The marital hardship you’re experiencing may be coming from the Lord, sanctifying you through your marriage to produce spiritual fruit. Sometimes growth is uncomfortable. My eight-month-old grandson cries a lot because his teeth are starting to come in. The older folk call this "cutting teeth" for a reason. Just like our Christian walk, our marriage is a work in progress. Philippians 1:6 says,
“Being confident of this very thing, that he which has begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.”
We need to start seeing marriage through the lens of the Word of God and not on our own understanding. That involves walking by faith and not by sight, so we do not become discouraged when adversity comes. We can look at different Bible passages and God’s reasons for marriage to help us from being led astray when there is adversity in our marriage:
“And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”– Genesis 2:18
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” – Proverbs 18:22
“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” – Mark 10:9
There will be a reward for faithful Christians when Jesus returns if we do not give up. Our heavenly reward in Christ will far outweight any earthly treasure.
“Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye steadfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, for as much as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.” – 1 Corinthians 15:58
John Blouin is the senior pastor of New Mount Zion in Houston, Texas and a board member of True Christian Magazine. He is married with four children and two grandchildren.